Why you need to celebrate Absolutely Incredible Kid Day
Created in 1996 by Camp Fire, Absolutely Incredible Kid Day (March 19, 2015) is a day focused on letting youth know how much they are appreciated. To honor the day, adults write letters of encouragement and inspiration to the incredible kids in their lives.
Why these letters matter
Parents are the biggest influences on their children feeling important, valued and worthy and these feelings are vital to a child’s success. The Child Development Institute shares:
“Kids who feel good about themselves seem to have an easier time handling conflicts and resisting negative pressures. They tend to smile more readily and enjoy life. These kids are realistic and generally optimistic. It’s also been shown that children who feel important are well-rounded, respectful and excel in academics, extracurricular activities and hobbies and develop healthy relationships with their peers.”
What to write
Remember that your kids are not checking your grammar or grading this letter; this letter is simply a means of sharing your feelings. It is just another place for you to say, “I love you” or record those moments your never want to forget. If you are feeling some writer’s block, here are a few things to include in your letter:
- I love you because you are my child.
- I am proud of how you…
- Share why you value your relationship.
- Share how you want your relationship to grow.
- Share how has she/he grown.
- Talk about what positive characteristics do you see emerging.
- Talk about moments and memories you cherish.
- Share your hopes for your child.
If you want more inspiration, follow HEARTS for Families and Camp Fire on Twitter. We will both be using the hashtag #AIKD to share Absolutely Incredible Kid Day advice and stories during the month of March.
Don’t limit yourself. There are so many ways you can show your appreciation for your children and encourage them year-round:
- Give positive feedback – It is so easy to get caught up in the negative and forget about the positive. Say, “thank you” and “I appreciate you” to your child more often.
- Don’t be self-depreciating – Your children learn how to treat themselves by watching how you treat yourself.
- Take notice – Say something when you notice your child has developed a new skill.
- Write more – Try to write your children at least one letter a year and collect them in a book. Use birthdays as a reminder to write or write whenever you want to capture a moment in your child’s life.
Be warned, your kids may not receive the letter as warmly as you might hope; they are just kids, after all. But know that your words are meaningful and have a profound effect your children whether or not they say it out loud.